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Having grief thrust upon you when you lose a loved one is tough enough, but what if the situation is prolonged due to due to delays in the service exasperated by the complications related to time, distance, pandemic restrictions, service delays and other challenges we did not have to face until COVID entered our lives?

We have fielded many “never faced this before” questions the last couple of years. Here are a few we share with you in this Chronicle, to help you understand that you are not alone. Experience is the best teacher.

People ask/comment –

  • “Why have a service months from now?” – The extra time provides an opportunity to plan an even more meaningful farewell tribute for your loved one. It also allows friends and family who are unable to travel on short notice to plan accordingly and be there to be part of the family.
  • “What is the true value of having a service in the future?” – Regardless of timing, the opportunity for those who truly care about the deceased to gather to support each other, share stories, and say goodbye is timeless. 
  • “I need to get on with my life.” – This can be a very common thought. But our experience tells us that the absence of a service can compound the problem of “moving on”. There is value in publicly acknowledging your grief and, through a service, allow comfort by those who share your pain.
  • “My loved one really did not want a service. So why should I consider it?” – Obviously, it makes sense to honor his or her wishes. But what about immediate family members who need to move forward? A simple tribute that brings family and close friends together and gives them a chance to share stories and comfort each other would be much appreciated. 

Since each situation is unique and personal, we would be happy to share our knowledge and experience with you on this important topic. We would welcome your call. 

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